These states can be so gripping that they challenge our baseline mindfulness levels. To release your anger, make that person seem smaller, less powerful, and less important to you. Observing yourself and then putting your observations into words helps you communicate better with others. When you are giving to someone else, you don't have to be the vulnerable receiving one. Think of this as the whole-food, plant-based lunch option. I was an average swimmer, but rarely bothered to show that skill off. In the next section we'll talk about which technique or techniques you might want to choose as a starting point based on your particular situation and personality style. Even better when it has a backdrop of a deep green evergreen shrub, like box, yew or holly. And healthy living can become a relentless preoccupation in a paradoxical effort to overcome and banish meaningless thoughts, leading to a rigid lifestyle, unnecessary deprivations, and more worries. Men never cry and weep. When you take the time to ask yourself such questions, you train yourself to read your emotions. I'll never forget the smell of singed flesh or the sound of the bone saw as I went through the tibia. Next is False Comfort. You are gifted with this chance to be here in this body, on this planet, on this earth. You imagine it and you can create whatever your imagination comes up with. Once you've done this a couple of times, use each exhalation to imagine a shade being drawn down on a window, creating privacy. Whenever you feel worried or tense or stuck (or just feel like taking action) regarding your big goal or general concern, work on the action items. I have lead thousands of people through this process, and not one has died yet. It ripples forward into future generations to awaken the opportunity for new narratives. This starts the fear-diminishing cycle.